Friday, June 28, 2019

Sacred Spaces June 28th

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"You must have a room, or a certain hour or so a day, where you don't know what was in the newspapers that morning, you don't know who your friends are, you don't know what you owe anybody, you don't know what anybody owes to you. This is a place where you can simply experience and bring forth what you are and what you might be. This is the place of creative incubation. At first you may find that nothing happens there. But if you have a sacred place and use it, something will eventually happen." ~ Joseph Campbell
 
Dear Aspen Chapel Families, 

     This is such a sweet reminder for us, as parents. Can we possibly find a time in the day to forget the appointments we need to make, to ignore the texts and emails, to not worry about our children or the world we're raising them in? How can we be our most divine selves if we don't give ourselves the gift of quiet in a sacred space? How can we really know what to do in our daily matters if we don't listen to the still, small voice within, which is the voice of our highest consciousness? 
    This past week we had company in our house, which meant double the house work and half the time for oneself. All spaces were filled with conversation and time was filled with rushed efficiency to ensure all mouths were fed and bodies hydrated. I found myself toward the end of the week spiraling into self-doubt and anxiety about the growing and impossible to-do lists and anticipating the piles of sheets and dirty bathrooms. But last night I treated myself to a yoga class where time literally stood still. The pace of this class was so slow with very little music...maybe a tap on a healing crystal bowl. In that hour and a half I found my equilibrium again and walked out feeling like everything was possible again. Truly, we need the gift of sabbatical every single day. 
    Parenting often feels like a race track with multiple obstacles to jump over, roll under and dodge almost every day. We can't possibly tackle the demands unless we calm our nervous systems by finding a sacred space where we can breathe, silence the noise in our heads, silence the noise of the world, and to find our inner light and stillness which will keep us upright when circumstances push us off balance. Equally important is to equip our children with the same daily practice: taking a daily break from music, screens, friends, camps, and all stimulation and bring them back to themselves, which can only be found in stillness and silence. 
    This Sunday we will continue to explore the idea of sacred spaces. We'll look at images of sacred spaces people use for worship, both indoors and outdoors, and discuss the qualities we look for that make a place special for us. Children in Sunday School have shared certain places that feel sacred: their bedrooms, the ocean, next to a river, and even within their classrooms when they need a break to be alone. Hopefully as parents we can model self care and the importance of silence for ourselves. Perhaps this will motivate them to create a special place in the home where they can retreat when their sensory systems are overloaded. And by fostering the importance of being still in sacred spaces at home, our children will seek out places in nature and/or places of worship or spiritual practice. The overall lesson is that the most sacred space lies within each and every one of us; but that sacred spaces can facilitate or help us access that space more easily. 
    Have a wonderful weekend, enjoying this glorious summer weather and I hope to see you and your children at the chapel this Sunday! 

Sacred Spaces; June 21st

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"Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again." ~Joseph Campbell
 
Dear Aspen Chapel Families, 

    I apologize for skipping this weekly communication last week. I was with six students on a border immersion program in El Paso/Las Cruces, and didn't have access to the Internet in our guest house. I had intended to begin our "sacred spaces" unit a couple of weeks ago, but because I delivered the Sunday sermon on the 9th and Father's Day was last Sunday, we're beginning the unit officially this Sunday. 
    For those who have lived in this valley for awhile probably have identified a place that brings pure serenity. Maybe it's a mountain valley, a specific trail, a place by a stream, or even a place of worship or yoga studio. As parents, maybe we yearn to sit in those places to shut out the noise of our daily life, with all of its fragmented demands.
    Our kids have come into a world with even more distractions and demands than we had as children. They have much less down time and the expectations to participate in multiple extra-curricular activities begin much earlier, especially as parents feel the pressure to prepare them for getting into college. Many of us as children had more free play time and open spaces we were allowed to go in to let our imaginations soar. This is no longer the case for our kids, since there's more development, more traffic, more information about safety, and less time. 
    Helping our children identify a sacred space, away from pressure and demands and distractions is critical. It doesn't have to be a high mountain valley; maybe it's under a coffee table or a closet, or a part of the house where the sun comes in just right. We know how important our children's human and pet connections are. They find solace and support in friends, dogs, cats, siblings, and of course their caregivers. But they also need to feel connected to places in their world that bring them peace and a place they can be alone with their thoughts, especially since our friends and family members aren't always physically or emotionally available. 
     This Sunday I'm going to help our kids identify the places they feel safe and peaceful in. We'll discuss whether it's outside or inside, and how these places make them feel. We might explore the idea of heaven and hell. Is heaven a distant place we go to after life on earth? Or is it something we find in this physical life, through our spaces and thoughts? What spaces bring tranquility and peace, and what spaces invite agitation and angst? If we can help our children become AWARE of how a space can be sacred, seeking them out can be a tool for calming their nervous systems and discovering their own independent thoughts and imagination. 

Friday, May 31, 2019

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"We have all known the long loneliness and we have learned that the only solution is love and that love comes with community."
~Dorothy Day

Dear Aspen Chapel Families, 

     Since we started our exploration into "connectedness" a couple of weeks ago, it seems to be a topic many people are talking about. I listened to an interview on NPR the other evening about college students suffering from anxiety and depression at alarming rates on college campuses. I have talked to parents whose college-aged children want to live back at home because they feel so isolated and lonely at school. And of course the take away from the presentation on" raising teens with family and community" was that human connection is essential for keeping kids from engaging in destructive behaviors.
     It seems that the more connections we have on our phones, the less connected we are to the people in our own homes and neighborhoods. I see it in myself! My kids ask a question, and the response is delayed as I finish a text or email on the phone. Our work demands bleed into family life with the convenience of emails on our phones! That's the modeling we're doing, so when it's time for "connecting" at the dinner table, it becomes harder and harder to set limits on kids when we don't set them for ourselves. Phones aren't the only reason for this lack of connection: we're overworked and our children are over-programmed. We're too busy to see our friends during the week, and no one is home during the down time for kids to play with. And the academic pressures are insurmountable, contributing to the unprecedented rates of anxiety among teens. 
     I came across an article written by a minister in Boulder called The epidemic of loneliness in young people and how spiritual youth groups can help. https://unityofboulder.com/the-epidemic-of-loneliness-in-young-people-and-how-spiritual-youth-groups-can-help/. It explains how our too-full schedules and technology have replaced the connection kids have with nature and each other. 
     I am so grateful to be able to create a space at the Aspen Chapel where youth can come and explore ideas openly and without judgment. As they grow older, we'll dive deeply into these more difficult topics, such as depression, addiction, and loneliness. But for now I'm thrilled to have a platform to teach them about what connectedness means and to provide a way for them to connect with each other. This Sunday we'll discuss why our connections to people, places, and things is so important. We'll also begin discussing whether it's okay to let go of a connection. Sometimes friendships become painful for kids, and they need to know it's okay to move on. And we'll think about how our connections have enriched our lives. I do hope to see you and your children this Sunday at the Chapel! Enjoy the emergence of Spring, finally!
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"If we all stand together, we'll all begin to heal."
~Sonja Linman

 
Dear Aspen Chapel Families,
    Early this week I had the privilege of attending a presentation called, "Helping Our Teens Through Family and Community" at the Aspen District Theater. Individuals and families who had direct experience with addiction sat on the first panel, and mental health therapists, police officers, and an ER doctor sat on the second. Sonja Linman, a prevention specialist and long-time educator, spoke in the middle.
    The first panel shared their harrowing stories of addiction and what factors they believe got them there. The second panel shared their observations of what teens are facing today: incredibly busy schedules, academic and social pressure, time on social media, and easy access to drugs and alcohol. Sonja Linman suggested that we become good at what we practice. Kids are practicing being on their devices and being over-programmed. She equated their experience to a cat watching a horror film: over-stimulation and anxiety as a result of a perceived threat, which life today offers!
    The common thread that each speaker spoke to was connection. It was stated that when kids stop connecting to their family, they become disconnected from themselves. Kids can feel lonely in their family if they don't connect on an emotional level. One of the presenters shared that as he became more distant and withdrawn from his family due to feeling overwhelmed and isolated by his emotions, he turned to drugs because he could connect just by sitting with someone else doing drugs. It was a way to be with people without sharing anything except a temporary high that numbs the pain. It wasn't until he was sent away for wilderness therapy that he realized how sad it was that he sought connection that way, now that he has learned that sharing our emotions is how we really connect with others. 
    Kids and adults alike need purpose, structure, goals, and connection. As we work towards goals, search for purpose and operate within a structure, we rely on connection to make it all worthwhile! We need to connect with people to manage all our experiences and emotions, we need to connect with what we're doing so we can be present with it and have buy-in, and we need to connect with ourselves in order to self-regulate when outside factors become out of control. 
    It was perfect timing that we began our "Connectedness" unit last Sunday. Last week we discussed the people, places, and things we're connected to. We'll continue discussing that this week, but the focus will be on what causes us to become disconnected and what it takes to reconnect. As adults, we learn to become more aware of our emotional triggers and we learn to hold space for that. We're also equipped with tools to find our equilibrium again: exercise, breathing, prayer and meditation, and conflict resolution skills. But most of us didn't learn about this when we were kids, so we're learning it now! If our kids can become aware of how they feel when they're connected and how to become connected, and further to notice when they're becoming disconnected and what they can do about it so they don't become isolated and depressed, they will be far more equipped than we were for the challenges that await them. 
    We hope to see you and your children this Sunday. Have a wonderful Memorial Day Weekend filled with "connectedness"! 

Saturday, May 11, 2019

May 11th, 2019

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"I believe the choice to become a mother is the choice to become one of the greatest spiritual teachers there is." 
~Oprah Winfrey

Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

     It is mid-May and we are coming upon Mother's Day. Many mothers may look forward to this day of family, brunch, flowers, and little coupons for chores. Others may meet this day with grief because it's a reminder of what they've lost or never had. And of course there are numerous emotions between joy and grief that honor the complexity of motherhood, family structure, unrelated caregivers, single parenthood, and the difficulties and heartbreaks associated with raising children, whether we're parents, step-parents, teachers, grandparents, aunts & uncles, or friends.
    Wherever we fall on the spectrum of emotions, we can probably all agree that mothering or care-giving is a spiritual experience. From the very beginning we experience the need to surrender, let go, trust, self-reflect, fail, try again, and to learn from the mirror, which is held up to us by all those we attempt to care for with our best intentions. Each time our hearts break or our strategies don't work or we're brought to our knees through care-giving, we are blessed with insight, which leads to wisdom. Unfortunately the wisdom comes after we've made numerous mistakes, but it comes when someone else needs it. That is why Mother's Day is a day to celebrate all caregivers who impart this insight. 
"So we are grateful and we appreciate both - our biological mothers and mother earth. We are here because of this mother and that mother."
"If you look closely enough, there isn't one thing in creation, without which you can exist. So I want you to look upon everything as a mother."
~Sadhguru

    Please join us this Sunday as we gather as a Chapel community to enjoy a short message, beautiful readings, and the music of ASPEN NOISE. We will also be passing the microphone around the sanctuary so everyone can share how motherhood or care-giving has touched them.

   Older children are invited to stay upstairs in the sanctuary for this special service. If your child would like to perform with ASPEN NOISE, they are having an 8:15 rehearsal at the Chapel, and we would love to have them join. Very young children will join McKenna downstairs for stories and a special craft. 

Saturday, April 27, 2019

April 27, 2019

"Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience." ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Dear Aspen Chapel Families,
     What perfect advice for this Spring season. Yesterday was an example of the fickleness of Spring and such an appropriate metaphor for our lives when we're trying to bring about more peace and happiness in our experience. We set goals for ourselves and hope our children will grow and thrive according to external expectations. But sometimes the good we're hoping for doesn't always happen on our timeline, and it's easy to feel discouraged.
     We know warmer days are ahead. We've experienced enough seasons to know that the earth will experience abundance and color again. When we set goals or pay attention to the benchmarks children should hit, it's easy to get discouraged by the roller coaster of hopes and setbacks. But it's unnecessary because the universe does know our desires, and our good unfurls in divine order.
    Nicholas will be discussing patience this Sunday, and children will also explore this theme through Spring literature in Sunday School. If we can instill a better sense of patience in this next generation of young people, perhaps they will experience less anxiety or depression in the future. I encourage you to observe your surroundings and the weather with them and try to relate its cycles to their lives.
    I will not send a newsletter next weekend, for I'll be out of town, but back on Sunday the 5th! I hope to see your children then!

If you ever have any questions regarding
our services or your children's needs, please
email me at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Department

Friday, April 19, 2019

April 19, 2019


"As a child welcomes the dawn with a heart filled with expectation and hope, let us welcome Easter, this symbol of light." ~May Rowland
 
Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

      As we welcome Easter weekend along with celebrating our beautiful Earth, which is exploding with Spring flowers and smells, we can reflect on what the Easter story means for us and how we can impart that to our children. In many ways, the Easter story holds elements of our own lives. Once we recognize that, then the rituals we take part in take on a whole new meaning.
    We have all experienced deaths in our lives in the form of losing someone very close to us, or losing a job or experiencing illness and hardship. We've all felt like the world was against us and as if we've been abandoned or betrayed. In times like these we almost feel crucified.
     When Jesus was crucified on the cross, people scattered and feared for their lives. They were filled with grief and confusion. There is a darkness that can engulf us in the same way, when we're met with tragedy, hopelessness, loss, or loneliness. Being in that dark space is similar to Jesus being in the dark, stone tomb. It's hard to imagine things improving when we're feeling this way.
     The Easter story really illustrates how the sun does rise again. When the women discovered that Jesus' body was no longer in the tomb, they weren't sure immediately what that meant. Just like we don't always know the reasons for our suffering, yet people people say to us, "there's always a silver lining," or "this too shall pass." We don't always recognize the good that comes into our lives after a painful event, and sometimes we don't know when or how we've left the tomb.
      But there usually comes a day where we notice life has gotten better! Maybe we laugh or we feel more energy or confidence. We start to see light again. The Easter story reminds us that good can come from the most difficult circumstances. Perhaps we develop more compassion, or an unexpected door opens after another was slammed, or we develop the wisdom necessary for our next chapter in the journey.
     As we say goodbye to the dark and cold days of winter, and welcome the sunshine and color of Spring, we can celebrate not only the man who taught about peace, love, forgiveness, and faith, but also the resurrection that we as humans experience throughout our lives.
    This Sunday, children of all ages are welcome to join us in the Aspen Chapel Sanctuary for a short Easter message by Nicholas Vesey, then join us downstairs for lighthearted crafts and an egg hunt that celebrate Easter and Earth Day. We hope to see you Sunday at 11:00am.

If you ever have any questions
regarding our services or your
children's needs, please email me
at michelle@aspenchapel.org


In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator

Saturday, April 13, 2019

April 13, 2019

The birth and rebirth of all nature, The passing of winter and spring, We share with the life universal, Rejoice in the magical ring."
Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

     When I reflect on my own childhood and remember Easter and the days leading up to Easter, I can recall certain images and activities, but I don't remember learning the purpose behind what we did as a family. I remember hoping that the dissolved Paas tablets would make a vibrant color on the eggs, and being disappointed when they came out pale and splotchy. I remember decorating our Easter tree with adorable wooden rabbits and ornate wooden eggs, and finding new ones hanging from my basket each year. My fondest memory is finding Cadbury eggs and little presents in my basket...it was like a smaller version of Christmas, but more pastel. I'd usually have to wear some starchy dress that my mom made and then cringe from embarrassment as my mom belted out Hallelujah with her Easter hat at some church with my grandparents. The only thing that got me through it was stifling laughter with my brother in the pews and knowing we'd be able to eat deviled eggs and more chocolate soon.
     It wasn't until I was in the throes of motherhood that Easter meant something more than arranging a "perfect" basket for my children with natural jellybeans and Jan Brett Easter books. Like with a lot of people, the struggles in our life as parents opened us to the spiritual lessons offered in the holidays we celebrate, behind the ritual and traditions and outfits and meals. And maybe by slowing down and helping our children understand the origins and meanings behind what we do for these holidays, they'll see beyond the "getting" and "consuming", and will see them as an opportunity to evolve as human beings with the cycles of birth, death, and rebirth that our planet experiences.
    So back to Paas tablets...why do so many of us engage in this tradition? What is the significance of eggs and rabbits in Easter, and what do they have to do with Jesus and the cross? What is Palm Sunday and Holy week and why hot cross buns? Obviously there's a broad spectrum of beliefs within our community and beyond. There are literal interpretations of the Easter story, metaphysical interpretations, and no interpretations at all except preparing a ham and egg casserole. But giving our children a context for how we do or don't do holidays can anchor them and provide meaning for them, which can bring comfort as they confront their own struggles.
     Tomorrow in Sunday School, we'll briefly discuss how the eggs and rabbits represented fertility and rebirth in nature in the Pagan observations of Spring,  preceding Christianity. We'll discover how baskets of treats evolved from Western Europeans bringing the tradition of making nests for rabbits and eggs. And how eggs were forbidden during Lent, so people painted them and waited to eat them for the Easter feast! We'll read a Christian version of the Easter story and discuss the significance of the palm for Palm Sunday. Of course we'll discuss these ideas while we create tangible crafts to bring home.
     As we go through the week in our own families, perhaps we can pick and choose what rituals to do with our kids and bring more meaning and purpose to them versus going through the motions. Maybe hot cross buns symbolize crossing out beliefs or behaviors that no longer serve us. Maybe coloring eggs are a way to remember and honor the cycles we go through as people (darkness into light, negative thinking into positive thinking, protecting our hearts into opening our hearts), just as nature goes through the same cycles, like a magical ring. I hope to see you and your children tomorrow as we begin this special week.

If you ever have any questions
regarding our services or your
children's needs, please email
me at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator

Saturday, April 6, 2019

April 6, 2019

"The beautiful spring came, and when Nature resumes her loveliness, the human soul is apt to revive also." ~ Harriet Ann Jacobs
 
Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

      As Spring lets us know it's here with the singing of morning birds, the receding snow on the golf course in Aspen, the cyclists in the lower valley, and the tips of daffodils in neighbor's yards, we begin to set ritual and tradition in motion, whether we're aware of it or not. Perhaps we purge forgotten items from our cluttered closets, begin thinking about our flower boxes and clearing sleds and old leaves off the porch, or buy white eggs in anticipation of dipping them in colorful dye. Whatever we do to welcome Spring, it can become richer if we slow down and recognize the power in ritual and see the connection between cleaning our homes and planting seeds, and clearing out negative thinking and planting seeds of gratitude in our hearts.
     When children are involved in the rites and rituals throughout the year, I believe it gives them a sense of identity, purpose, and meaning. Most religions recognize the patterns of seasons and the regeneration of life during Spring. So whether we're preparing for a large Passover gathering, dyeing Easter Eggs (which has roots in Pagan traditions), praising Buddha for Ohigan, or chanting and dancing in the Native American traditions, it's a time to involve our children so they may recognize the power of renewal within after enduring the long winter months.
     Tomorrow at the Chapel, children are invited to witness a Baptism upstairs. We will then move downstairs to plant seeds and draw the connection between caring for a plant and caring for our selves. We'll discuss the ways we care for our natural environment, how we care for our bodies for vitality, and how we can care for our hearts. We hope to see you all.

If you ever have any questions
regarding our services or your
children's needs, please email
me at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator

Saturday, March 30, 2019

March 30, 2019

Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

     We are now in the season of Lent, which begins 40 days before Easter. Traditionally this is a period in which people are asked to abstain from luxuries, activities, substances and foods in order to replicate Jesus Christ's self discipline, sacrifice, and withdrawal into the desert in order to prepare for his ministry. The number 40 is significant in Jewish-Christian scripture. In Genesis, the flood that destroyed the world lasted 40 days and 40 nights; the Hebrews spent 40 days in the wilderness before reaching the land God promised them; and Moses fasted for 40 days before receiving the 10 Commandments. The word LENT comes from the old English word meaning "lengthen", which represents the longer days in Spring. 
      It's now 23 days before Easter, and as a mother of elementary-aged children who are on Spring Break and as an educator who is recovering from two weeks of physically exhausting travel, I haven't abstained from anything except proper sleep! It can be difficult to adhere to these traditional religious practices in today's world. But if we look deeper into the spiritual meanings of rituals like this, we can integrate concepts that bring us closer to our divine nature not just in Spring, but year-round. 
     Last fall I enjoyed two months of unemployment and children in school. There was a lot of time to attend yoga classes, hike alone, and meditate both cross-legged and in cleaning my house, undisturbed. And it was in those two months that I enjoyed clarity of thought, inner peace, and deep self-reflection. It's unfortunate that Easter wasn't in October, because I was ready for the Resurrection! I haven't found ten minutes of alone time in the past three weeks to do anything but drink coffee in order to keep up with demands. And if I place too much weight on the "40 days", I'll feel guilty and ashamed and forget the whole thing. 
    So what does this season of Lent mean for us and our children? Is it about abstaining from alcohol, sugar, television and social media? Or is it really about becoming more conscious of the thoughts and actions that prevent us from living our best life? Jesus said, "When you fast, put oil on your head and wash your face..." Metaphysically, oil stands for a consciousness of love, and washing one's face represents clarity. Maybe this is a time for us to notice what serves us and and what doesn't. For some that means abstaining from certain foods; for others perhaps it's carving out more time for nature or silence. And in order to really know HOW to live our best life, we abstain from thoughts and activities that dampen our awareness. 
    Tomorrow in Sunday School, we'll briefly discuss the history of Lent. Then we'll do an activity that encourages deep observation in order to increase awareness around how we feel, how we affect others, and what we need to feel good (God). We'll create a project that reflects behaviors that support us in living our highest good and listen to a story that's congruent with this season of Lent. I am so excited to be back with your children at the Aspen Chapel and to explore these ideas with them. I hope to see everyone tomorrow! 

If you ever have any questions
regarding our services or your
children's needs, please email me
at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator


      

Saturday, March 9, 2019

March 9, 2019

"All religions, arts, and sciences are branches of the same tree"
Albert Einstein

 
Dear Aspen Chapel Families,
       Tomorrow we spring forward! Don't forget to change your clocks! Hopefully we'll all be motivated to get an early start now that the sun is finally shining!
       In Sunday school we are continuing our inquiry into World Religions. Obviously as our children get older and take Social Studies classes, they'll learn the history behind so many religions, what the roots were that religions around the world were born from, the cultural and political implications of various religions, the geographic origins of religions, and all the varieties of religions that have branched off into smaller belief systems.
      The goal at this young age is to instill a sense of tolerance and respect for people who believe differently. When we share answers to questions or our thoughts, just in our little circle of young people at the Aspen Chapel, the diversity of thought is evident. When we create a safe place to question, wonder, share, make mistakes, speculate, and disagree, this sets children up for an open-minded approach to life as they meet new ideas, people, and experiences. The goal is not to have them memorize religions, symbols, or rituals. It's merely to open them up to the fact that we share our our planet with millions of people, and despite our different religions, we share many similarities.
     Tomorrow the Sunday School children will continue discussing the idea of different beliefs, then they will draw images that represent what they believe, getting them used to the idea that they may have different images/beliefs than their neighbor, friend, or sibling! We'll then have story time and conclude with a guided meditation.
     Speaking of World Religions, I will not be at the Aspen Chapel for the next two weeks (17th and 24th). I will be leading a student trip to Mumbai and a remote village called Chinchoti. In Mumbai we'll visit the Gandhi museum, visit a Jain temple, and work with Hindus and Muslims in a community center in the slums. My host family in Chinchoti wakes in the very early morning to honor Hindu Gods with marigolds, candles and incense. I'll be excited to share pictures and stories with the Sunday School children upon return. We are honored to have Drew Sorenson, our former Sunday School teacher, and Perrin Elisha, a parent and congregation member, teach Sunday School.
     Also, due to an illness, we are postponing our rehearsals with Dan Sheridan until I return. He was unable to rehearse our song with the Sunday School last Sunday, the 3rd, so they're not ready to perform tomorrow. We will set a new date and I will keep you informed about the students singing for the congregation!!
   Have a wonderful weekend and we hope to see you all tomorrow! 


If you ever have any questions
regarding our services or your
children's needs, please email me
at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator

 

Saturday, March 2, 2019

March 2, 2019

"If we take the world's enduring religions at their best, we discover the distilled wisdom of the human race" ~Huston Smith
 
Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

      In a time when tensions around the world are mounting, nationalist movements are growing in resistance to human migration, and as our own nation becomes more polarized, we must find a way to instill tolerance and respect among our children. Identification with religion can be a root cause of conflict and misunderstanding among people, but as Huston Smith suggests, we are more similar than we are different if we examine the basic elements of each belief system.
     As a person who grew up in a progressive, new age Christian church, I like to believe that I am very open-minded to all religions. But when I honestly examine my assumptions and stereotypes of different beliefs and practices, I can see I have a lot to learn in order to avoid generalizing and setting groups of people apart. This requires an effort not only to identify what the symbols and traditions are, but to understand the true wisdom behind each religion. If we are to move into a more tolerant and united civilization, I think we have an obligation to expose our children to the best aspects of all religions and cultures, helping them see how much we have in common with people all around the world.
     This Sunday we will begin an inquiry into world religions. The kids will have an opportunity to share what religion means to them and their prior knowledge of different religions. We'll discuss some of the very basic beliefs and traditions of well-known religions, and do a project called "Pieces of the Pie", which shows visually how all these different religions make up a whole. The differences are seen in the outer edge of the pie, with symbols, traditions, foods, dress, etc. The similarities are found in the middle, which is where the underlying wisdom resides. If we have time, we'll read God's Dream by Archbishop Desmond Tutu.
     Sunday School students are invited to perform a song with Dan Sheridan on March 10th at the Sunday service. He will be joining us toward the end of our session tomorrow to practice the song, "To Love, Serve, and Remember" by John Astin, which can be pulled up on YouTube. It would be great if kids could practice this over the next week. I look forward to seeing you and your children tomorrow!

If you ever have any questions
regarding our services or your
children's needs, please email me
at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator


 

Saturday, February 9, 2019

February 9, 2019


"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." ~Buddha
 
Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

      Somewhere along the way as we were conditioned by our families, our peers, our education, media, economy, and culture, many of us were taught NOT to love ourselves. We've been taught the virtues of selflessness and humility. We have a hard time accepting compliments and feel guilty if we take care of ourselves or take a day off from our responsibilities. As we deny the flow of love for ourselves, we seek love from others and are disappointed and resentful when people don't love us the way we expected them to.
      What if this new generation of children could learn EARLIER to love and honor themselves? Perhaps if we teach them to honor their own needs and love themselves unconditionally, they could be fulfilled no matter what's going on in their lives externally! What if they loved themselves enough to listen to their inner-wisdom and could learn to say no in the face of peer pressure or a desire to please others?
      Tomorrow in Sunday School we'll talk about the importance of loving ourselves and practicing self-acceptance. We'll read Giraffes Can't Dance, which illustrates the idea of embracing our individuality instead of denying who we are in order to fit in. And children will make a Valentine for themselves, using images from magazines to create a self-care collage. And we'll again close with a meditation, which is a practice that over time can help us develop self-love.
     I still have a long way to go in the self-love department. But I did buy myself some yellow roses yesterday. I even asserted my need for help without using passive-aggressive communication techniques, like sighing. I hope that you, as parents, will do something good for yourselves today, as an example to your children that we can become better at loving when we start with ourselves.
    Happy Valentine's week and I do hope to see you all tomorrow.

If you ever have any questions
regarding our services or your
children's needs, please email
me at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator


Saturday, February 2, 2019

February 2, 2019

"We've been infected with this idea that love is an emotion only felt between two people. But love is universal. An energy. A contagious force. A gift. To offer money to a homeless man is love. To save a worm from the sun is to love. To smile at a stranger is to love. To be grateful, to be hopeful, to be brave, to be forgiving, to be proud, is to love." A.R. Lucas

Dear Aspen Chapel families,

    February is here! The love month! It's evident in City Market and in all the storefronts that it's the time of year for heart candies, red heart boxes, red outfits, chocolates, and Valentine's Day decor! So it's only appropriate that at Sunday school we celebrate the idea of Love for the month of February. 

     The commercial version of love that's displayed in all the supermarkets, window displays, and advertisements for Valentine's Dinner specials implies that love is all about romance and the love between two people. In Sunday School, we want to expand the idea of love and broaden its definition.
    When we are operating from our highest mind, which is typically accessed when we take time to be silent and grateful, we tap into the love that resides within all of us. The expressions of this love can be observed in everyday actions: from making sure our pets have clean water to spending quality time with someone.
     Tomorrow we'll start our February theme by discussing what love is, words that describe love, talking about how others show love, and when we feel love. We'll then do an art project that illustrates how love plays a role in each of our lives. Following our project we'll read a story and go into a guided meditation.
     I hope you'll be able to join us tomorrow!

If you ever have any questions regarding
our services or your children's needs, please
email me at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator


   

Saturday, January 19, 2019

January 19, 2019

"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase." -Martin Luther King

Dear Aspen Chapel families,

    I think this quote is so powerful and can apply to any situation and any age group. Whether we're starting ski school, doing a school project, performing in a play, taking on new responsibilities, or even coping with trauma or change, stepping into it without knowing the outcome is where we find and grow our faith.
    This Sunday we'll be connecting ourselves with who and what we have faith in. As we grow up, we'll encounter so many people and situations that either strengthen our faith or weaken it. Some people cheer us on and mirror our strength and confidence. Others might do and say things that knock us off our path with discouraging comments or actions, which can create self-doubt. This starts right away in early childhood, as young as pre-school when children are learning to work alongside each other. Over the years I've tried to listen in on my kids' playdates, to make sure there's emotional and physical safety. I've observed friends who bring out the best in my kids, making them long for more time together. I've also seen and heard my kids get deflated by comments, which you can see in their face. These doubts can follow us as we grow, causing us to fear failure so much that we sometimes don't take the first step toward the top of the staircase.
     The idea is to foster our children's inner-faith. That they see themselves as divine beings with divine potential. Once they develop this inner faith in themselves, they can meet encounters with all people with confidence. We'll always have people in our lives who cheer us on. But there will also people people who project their own self-doubt onto us. The more connected we are to our divinity, the easier it becomes to keep stepping up toward the unknown.
     Our children might not fully understand this right now. It can take a lifetime to integrate these ideas, but my goal each Sunday is to plant seeds. I hope to see your children tomorrow!
     Also, I want to remind you that for Martin Luther King Day, the chapel is hosting a community dinner for the homeless. You and your children are invited to join us anytime between 3:30 and 6:00 to prepare the meals and tables. It is not necessary to come for the whole time, if you need to come a little later. Then at 6:00 we'll enjoy a community dinner together. It should be a heart-opening experience!

If you ever have any questions regarding our services or your children's needs, please email me at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator

Saturday, January 12, 2019

January 12, 2019

Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

     I hope this first week of getting back into a routine has felt as wonderful to you as it has for our family! As lovely as the holidays are, I find that my own children are far happier when the days are predictable and when they have a sense of purpose and responsibility.
     I ended up getting sick at the tail end of the holiday break, and felt frustrated at first, and resentful of how far behind in my responsibilities I became. But through meditation (which was restored once the school bus arrived;)), I came to realize that sometimes it's okay to experience CONTRAST. When we are experiencing lack of productivity and motivation, or even depression or sluggishness, it provides an opportunity for us to fully appreciate the contrast once we get back on our feet. It's like recovering from a cold, and finally breathing through our nostrils without congestion. We promise ourselves that we'll never take that for granted again! This can be a great way to help kids move through their own frustrations. Conditions are never permanent, and sometimes CONTRAST or feeling the opposite of how we WANT to feel is our best teacher. 
     As I mentioned in a previous email, January can be a time to push the reset button. We'll spend the next three weeks examining Faith: what it is, how to find it, and how it can help us. In conjunction to that, we'll commit time to a guided meditation every Sunday this month. Below is a link to an article in Forbes magazine: Science shows meditation benefits children's brains and behavior. I find that in my own life, with pressures coming from so many directions, that meditation is where I find perspective and heart-centered answers. What a privilege to help kids learn this tool so early on! 
    I hope to see your children tomorrow and hope you're having a safe, relaxing, and joyful weekend. 

If you ever have any questions regarding
our services or your children's needs,
please email me at michelle@aspenchapel.org

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator


https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2016/10/18/the-many-benefits-of-meditation-for-children/#172601eddbe3



     

Saturday, January 5, 2019

January 5, 2019

Dear Aspen Chapel Families,

     Happy New Year! I hope you all had a wonderful holiday break filled with good health, relaxation, fun, and cheer! The pace of the holidays can make us feel glad to start the new year with familiar routines and healthy habits.
     If as parents we're modeling how to make resolutions or set goals for the New Year, our children are paying attention and perhaps thinking about their own goals for the year. However, even adults can get discouraged right off the bat when resolutions are broken in the first week due to illness, unpredictable stress at work or in the family, more festive obligations and gatherings, or just the obstacles we face in our daily round. It's easy to feel overwhelmed by the growing list of tasks we must do in order to meet our goals when we get met with setbacks. So if adults can feel discouraged, then kids can feel discouraged as well! They also experience setbacks with school work, illness, friends, siblings, and exhaustion from the holidays.
     With this in mind, I'd like to start the New Year focusing on the theme of FAITH. It's so easy to start a negative thinking spiral when things don't go our way or when what we want doesn't happen when we want it, but when we have Faith, it builds resilience and the trust required to surrender to the process of life unfolding. We will spend the next few weeks discussing what faith is, what we have faith in, and how we can use our faith to guide us and encourage us when life throws us curve balls. In addition, we'll work on meditation and relaxation techniques as a tool children can use when it's necessary to listen to their inner guide.

    "Take a leap of Faith and begin this wondrous year by believing. Believe in yourself. And believe that there is a loving Source - a Sower of Dreams -- just waiting to be asked to help you make your dreams come true." - Sarah Ban Breathnach

   Hope to see you tomorrow!

In Peace and Blessings,
Michelle Skagen
Aspen Chapel Youth Coordinator


If you ever have questions
regarding our services
or your children's needs,
please email me at
michelle@aspenchapel.org